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I will convince you to go to a free trial jiu jitsu class

February 20th, 2023

Imagine yourself, walking around with confidence, your chest sticking out, your shoulders back, your head high, your stride strong. As you walk by other people, they notice the smirk on your face, a tiny grin that suggests you know something they don’t, an inside joke or a secret that they wish they knew. The people you walk by wish they had what you have, they wish they knew what you know.

Imagine being part of a secret society or furtive fellowship, where you have created a better version of yourself and learned how to protect yourself if you ever needed to, by participating in fun physical activity that has put you in the best shape of your life. Your family and friends will ask “What’s your secret? And, can I join?!”

Of course they can. So you go the BJJ gym together and discover what you’re all truly made of…by choking a complete stranger!

Look, we all have fear and doubt and uncertainty. Fear of getting hurt. Doubting ourselves about what we can do. And uncertain if you’d ever be good at a martial art. Guess what, almost everyone that has ever joined a martial art started that way! Nobody was born a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. But those that have achieved that prestigious belt, started right where you are, at the free trail jiu jitsu class.

So what are you waiting for? It’s free! Join a free trial jiu jitsu class now in your city and let me know how it goes! But I already know how it will go, you’re going to love it!
8 Match BJJ Competition Extravaganza AND Why Getting Your Ass Kicked is a Great Way to Test Yourself

February 6th, 2023
Ever since I competed in that eight match extravaganza (it was actually seven, but I’ll get into that later), I’ve been wanting to write about it but for some reason, I haven’t had the urge to write it. Wanting to write about it and not being able to find the words, sucks. Since re-purposing this blog into a JiuJitsu only blog, it has turned into one massive project of figuring out why I do jiujitsu in the first place. Let’s try and figure that out together.

“I’ll be fine. It’s just the fear of the unknown that stands in my way.”

I read that quote on a poster in the office at work. It’s a great quote to help someone reframe their in-action to do something hard. And most things in life that we could be afraid of, our worrying about it, is usually worse than the outcome. This is a fact of life that I have to constantly remind myself of.

Perhaps, for me, competing in jiujitsu, or even showing up to my BJJ Academy and training each week, is one giant test. I’m testing myself, but for what? Are aliens going to come down and invade earth but the only way we can stop them is through jiujitsu? Probably not (but one can dream). So why do I need to test myself with jiujitsu?

There were lots of other things I could’ve been doing on a Saturday morning, like sleeping in, reading a book, hanging out with my wife, eating, or really any activity that doesn’t involve me fighting a bunch of 20 something year olds. But for some reason I thought it was a good idea to sign up to a round robin tournament and do four matches in the gi and four matches in no gi.

And you know what, it was a good idea. I ended up winning my very first match in Brazilian jiujitsu by points, 6 to 4. The feeling, of having your hand raised, looking at the score, and having your family and friends share that moment with you, is a wonderful feeling and I hope one day you can experience that. My wife was there with me the whole day, supporting me, and worrying about me, she’s family and she’s a friend. It was great to share it with her.

My wife also made a good observation, my opponents had coaches to tell them what to do. I had no coach and had to figure out what to do on the fly by myself. However my wife was a great manger and yelled encouraging words as I fought. She was a great cheerleader and driver. She is a great person to have in my corner, in bjj and in life. She made another astute observation, I’m more mobile than most 37 year olds. Most 37 years olds aren’t competing and fighting against 20 something year olds in bjj. That’s true. That made me feel good about myself. Sometimes I forget how much I have improved and how much work I do. We need to step back sometimes and be proud of what we’ve done.

So how did the other seven matches go? Arm bar, triangle, refs decision, ankle lock, D’Arce choke, and rear naked choke. Those are the techniques that I submitted to. And I won another match by, what’s called, a walk-over. A walk-over means that the person forfeited for some reason (they didn’t show up on time), however I did fight that guy later in no gi, he got me in a D’Arce choke, which was just as nasty as the others. Side note: my left elbow still hurts from an arm bar, going on over two weeks now.

Would I do this again? Nope. I’m not as spry as I used to be. I would have to dedicate all my free time to training in the fitness gym and bjj gym, which I sort of do now but it’s not a strict schedule. I was out paced, out weighed, and older than my opponents by 10, sometimes 15 more years. Not sure I have it in me to compete at that level. I’ll stick to Mater 1 division (30 year old +) and try to make weight for 155 instead of 170.

I’m what they call a hobbyist, someone who does bjj for a hobby. But I wanted to test myself and see what it was like to do eight matches. Now I know what my skill level is at for competitions, my record is currently is 2-8. 2 wins (one by points, one by walk-over) and 8 losses (by points and subs).

Doing hard things tests you. If you survive (spoiler alert, you will) then you’re almost guaranteed to come out of the struggle a better version of yourself. This eight match extravaganza was one of the hardest things I’ve done phsycially. I’m glad I did it. Now it’s time to continue recovering, keep showing up to practice, and make sure I’m ready for my next competition, whenever that may be.

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Walking the Dogs, Nostalgia, and Risking Permanent Injuries for Glory

January 20th, 2023

It’s around noon eastern standard time here in southern Ontario Canada. It’s 2°C, cloudy, with a chance of drizzle. Currently, I’m out walking our two dogs and using speech-to-text and talking into the Notes app on my iPhone. And in less than 24 hours I will be fighting a bunch of 20 something year olds in a round robin tournament in Toronto. I’m not nervous. Yet. I’ve been to two JiuJitsu competitions in my life last year and I didn’t get nervous until I stepped on the mat. And it was the same when I used to wrestle in high school all those years ago.

I’ve trained on the JiuJitsu mat and in the fitness gym these last few weeks, and I’m ready as I can be. I often times think about why I would even do such a thing, sign up to a competition and potentially get a permanent injury from young men full of energy and in their prime. Honestly, I’m still trying to figure that out. I have three jobs, a wife, and two dogs to take care of. Why would I risk permanent injury and jeopardize all of those things in my life. I like training jiujitsu and I like telling people I train jiujitsu. It’s one of the many hats that I wear. I wear a tutor hat. I wear a cooks hat. I wear a support workers hat and I wear a jujitsu hat. Out of all the hats I wear the jiujitsu one is still a mystery.

When I told people I was fighting in eight matches, they all had the same look, wide-eyed and surprised, and all of them said in different ways. “wow that’s a lot good luck,” I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I think I’m trying to re-create the feelings and good vibes I experienced from wrestling tournaments from back in the day, I’m trying to relive the old days, and a nostalgic feeling I get from training for and driving to and walking around and competing at the tournaments.

I just hope it’s worth the risk of potentially permanent injury. My hand is getting really cold and I need to pick up the dog mess in the grass. I’ll let you know how the competition goes.
Getting My Fourth Stripe on My White Belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu

December 22nd, 2022

You’ve come a long way since walking into the gym and signing up for a jujitsu membership.

Just walking through the doors and deciding that this is something you want to dedicate your time to, is a feat unto itself.

A reminder that most people don’t do jujitsu, most people who do join end up leaving for various reasons, and most people who stay for a bit end up quitting at blue belt. At least that’s what they say.

Just over a week ago I got my fourth stripe on my white belt in Brazilian jujitsu. It means a lot more than the other three stripes.

This fourth stripe I actually feel like I’ve earned it and deserve it. That’s not to say I don’t trust my head instructors judgment, when giving out stripes. I think it has more to do with my lack of self-confidence from when I first started my martial arts journey.

Who knows how long I’ll have my fourth stripe for before I get the coveted blue belt. Then the fun can really start.

How many stripes do you have on your white belt? If you are a higher belt, do you remember what it was like having four stripes on your white belt?

Here are some observations about being a four stripe white belt:

Survival

I’ve had enough white belts and blue belts and the rare purple belt tell me I have good defence.

That’s a wonderful compliment at this stage in my game. That being said, I almost never go for or attempt a submission finish.

The only technique I try for is a head and arm choke from side control or mount.

It works less than fifty percent of the time. I’ll take it, that’s pretty good for me.

Escapes

With survival usually comes escaping. At least that’s what I’ve experienced. Or you’re saved by the buzzer, which is a white belts best friend.

At this stage in my game as a four stripe white belt, escaping from someone taking my back is getting easier. It’s not easy though.

But it’s now not impossible. Escaping from side control is still challenging and I haven’t found my favourite way of escaping that, in no gi it’s a bit easier for some reason. I think because we’re sweatier.

I still get caught in arm bars and triangles. From white belt to higher belts. I must be doing something wrong.

I think that I tend to put my hands out when passing and lean over too much, what can I say I love putting the pressure on when I pass.

It’s the wrestler in me I guess. Gotta keep them arms in.

Mindset

Why keep showing up in the first place?

I like to say I have a white belt mindset. Always eager to learn, being a newbie in an ever growing and evolving martial art.

I bet even higher belts still have that mindset. There were times I really struggled with wanting to keep showing up.

But after I got my third stripe I knew I was on the right track. After getting my fourth stripe I can see the blue belt in my sights.

I still have a long way to go to get there but I am not stopping. Not now when I’m so close.

What do I think blue belt is like?

I feel like being a white belt in bjj is the tutorial in a video game. And the real game hasn’t even started yet until blue belt.

My defence will still be a work in progress but it will be harder for whites and blues to submit me. It will happen but not as much. The higher belts will still destroy me, of course.

At blue belt that’s when I will get my attacking and escaping game going. With a tight defence I can feel comfortable and confident in attempting attack techniques and submissions. Maybe something OTHER than a head and arm choke.

What do YOU think it will be like when YOU get your blue belt?
My Jiu Jitsu Game: A Breakdown Analysis by a Black Belt

December 9th, 2022

A BJJ black belt by the name of Matt, was nice enough to reach out to me with an idea. Matt is working on a BJJ idea where he offers people a chance to submit footage of a competition match or a rolling session, and a black belt (him) reviews it, and returns the footage with commentary. I said that’s cool and we exchanged emails.

The following is a summary of his analysis…

Analysis – Strategy

Since my match was mostly stand-up, that is, my opponent and I were stuck jostling instead of attacking for most of the match, Matt starts off by giving me some strategy ideas for takedowns. For example, ankle picks and collar drags are relatively safe from back exposure to your opponent. And if he can’t get his best takedowns in under a minute, he looks for a chance to pull guard into specific sweeps he likes. An if those don’t work than maintaining a good open or closed guard. A lot of the match was stalemating in stand-up with grips, with not a lot of grip breaking. For example, I had more wrestling grips like undercooks and collar ties. Matt suggests that I get comfotable with collar grips at the collar bone, as they have pretty much the same control as a collar tie.

Analysis – Crossing My Feet

In the match, I had a bad habit of moving laterally with my opposite foot. And as a result put myself in the position of potentially being tripped as my legs where momentary crossed (as you see in the picture below, I’m moving to the left but using my right foot first). Lucky my opponent didn’t notice.

Analysis – Hip Toss

Since I sort of froze up and forgot a years worth of my jiu jitsu, some of my old wreslting habits kicked in. I tried to do a hip toss but was too far away. Matt said ‘spacing’ is important for executing a hip toss correctly, I needed more hip-to-hip connection. I used to get them no problem in wrestling but with the gi grips, my opponent wasn’t going anywhere. I was just too far away and he had tight grips on my arms and collar. He also mentioned that hip tossing in BJJ is high risk, as you’re basically exposing your back to your opponent. Also there is no extra points for amplitude for takedowns in BJJ, if there is a dramatic high flying toss, it gets the same number of points, two, as an ankle pick.

Notice the gap

I’m off balance and risk being tossed backwards.

Too much space for a hip toss

Again I could have been tossed backwards because I have too much space and don’t have good balance here

Analysis – Grip Breaking

Matt suggests that I need to have a goal of practicing and playing with different grips while at the BJJ gym, and to figure out what grips work best for me. For example, the same side sleeve grip or cross side sleeve grip, and “When you break these grips, try and break them in a way where you keep that grip. Let’s say that I’m ripping your hand off my lapel, well to do that I have to grab you, right?. When I grab your sleeve, I’m going to break the grip and keep the sleeve, and look to work from there…use that grip that you got, and go with it.”

Analysis – Posture

Have you ever seen competition photos on Facebook or other social media from events like Grappling Industries, NAGA, or IBJJF? Matt noticed that most people, all levels, have stand-up posture like my opponent and I do in the photo below. Our weight is out in front of our feet, hips are far back, great for someone who loves ankle picks and the snap-down. Matt says it’s a common posture in BJJ and more people should be taking advantage of their opponents poor posture.

Here I try a Head and Arm toss but missed and it went to the ground with my opponent on top of me

Analysis – On the Ground

There wasn’t much ground play in this match. But after my failed head and arm toss, my opponent gets on top on me and I recover in a quarter guard (which I didn’t even know was a type of guard ha). I should have tried with all my might and turned into my opponent. Matt points out that I can’t recover guard while I’m facing away from my opponent. I need to plant my feet and turn back into him.

Conclusion

Thanks to Matt the black belt for taking the time to do a breakdown analysis of my current BJJ game.

Basically, I cross my feet too much and try high risk tosses but have too much space and I’m off balance. An even better opponent would have crushed me. I ended up losing the match in points. I’ve done two comps, two matches, and still haven’t scored points. Lucky I signed up for my third comp and will look to do better! That’s the plan anyway.
Signed up for another Jiu Jitsu tournament for January 2023

December 7th, 2022

I signed up for a No Gi AND Gi competition. Round Robin. I’ve never done a No Gi Comp but why the heck not. This will be my third competition ever. I’m currently 0-2 in competing in bjj. I have a good feeling about this next one.

I have to make sure I don’t psych myself out either. Looking at the brackets everyday is not a good idea. Fear can keep people from competing. Fear of embarrassment can keep people from even joining or trying Jiu Jitsu.

Why the heck am I going to train for a martial arts competition at the age of 37? Why would I put my body and mind through that? Am I trying to prove something to myself? Not sure. But I know I want to have fun. And BJJ is fun.

I’m going to train on the mats AND in the gym. I need to be lifting more weights this next seven weeks since I will be in a heavier weight division, 170lbs, I’m currently 160lbs.

I now have a focus and motivation for going to the fitness gym. For years I haven’t been able to make weight-lifting a habit. Hopefully now that I have a goal of actually being competitive this time around it’ll motivate me to keep going to the gym at LEAST three times a week.

I got to say I’m excited about this next competition. I feel my wrestling skills will be more prominent in No Gi since there is no material to grip when hand-fighting and for my stand-up. But when I’m in someone’s closed guard in No Gi, like what the heck do I even grab? In training I sort of grab on to my opponents arms or wrists and try to post on them, is that correct? I’m need to look in to that. No Gi is like a different martial art than Gi.

Anyways, have you tried a free trial jiu jitsu class yet? Try it out!

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How to Get Better at BJJ if You Can’t Train

November 30th, 2022

This week I won’t be going to jiu jitsu class because of a cold. Rest and recovery is what I need. And lots of hot Aguapanela with ginger (a Latin American home remedy for when you are sick, and it’s tasty).

Since starting BJJ over a year ago, I’ve had to take weeks off, here and there, after getting sick or getting injured. When that first happened, I felt bad that I was missing time on the mats. I thought I would get worse and fall behind my teammates. But after missing a week here and there, more and more, when I came back to class I noticed something: I didn’t get worse,, I got better. How the heck did that happen?

Well it turns out, that watching BJJ competitions, Youtube and social media videos on jiu jitsu techniques, and basically thinking about rolling all the time, actually helps with our mind-body connection.

Kinaesthetic Motor Imagery

Thinking about jiu jitsu all the time makes you better at jiu jitsu.

“Motor imagery (MI) is the cognitive ability that allows an individual to perform and experience motor actions in the mind, without actually executing such actions through the activation of muscles (Moran et al., 2012). MI thus enables one to practice movements without needing to physically perform them.”
K. Richard Ridderinkhof, Marcel Brass

Thinking about jiu jitsu all the time makes you better at jiu jitsu, especially if you can’t train.

“MI may be particularly useful in
conditions where practical limitations constrain physical training, such as biomechanical rigidity, limited physical strength, pain, fatigue, risk of injury, limited access to equipment, etcetera.”
K. Richard Ridderinkhof, Marcel Brass

But you need to pair the visualization with doing the hard work, showing up to class and learning, failing, and applying what you’ve learned. Motor imagery also makes you more competitive.

“MI has been shown to facilitate the learning and acquisition of motor skills, as well as the maintenance and retention of previously acquired skills (Cooper, 1985). The frequency of MI use increases with competitive level (Hall et al., 1990), [and] differentiates professional players from amateurs (Lotze and Halsband, 2006),”
K. Richard Ridderinkhof, Marcel Brass

“Although MI is typically employed to complement physical training, even studies in which MI replaced physical practice altogether have found significant performance improvements in such events as golf putting, trampoline routines, and platform diving (Grouios, 1992; Isaac, 1992).”
K. Richard Ridderinkhof, Marcel Brass

First Person and Third Person Imagery

Imagining or watching yourself or imagining others and watching other people.

“Mental imagery can be experienced from one of two ‘viewpoints’: a first-person perspective (1PP) or a third-person perspective (3PP). Using 3PP, the individual imagines the motor action from the position of a virtual onlooker, watching herself perform, as if on a home video. Using 1PP, by contrast, the individual imagines performing the action not only as if looking through her own eyes, but typically also as if sensing her own motions.”
K. Richard Ridderinkhof, Marcel Brass

First person imagery is when you imagine yourself performing the moves, through your eyes. For example, you may replay a sparring session when the heavyweight new white belt who is also a black belt in judo, kosoto-gari’s you straight to your back and is now on top of you in side control.

Third person imagery is when you imagine the move being performed by other people, you are an onlooker. Or you are watching a video of someone performing the moves. For example, you watch yourself competing in the video your wife took from the sideline of you and the other white belt grip fighting for four minutes without any action and getting penalties for delaying.

Don’t feel bad for missing BJJ practice. Getting sick or getting hurt happens to all of us. Missing time is part of the game. Just don’t forget about it, think about it often, and you’ll come back even better.

See you out on the mats!

SOURCE: How Kinesthetic Motor Imagery works: A predictive-processing theory of visualization in sports and motor expertise
Should White Belts Give Advice?

November 27th, 2022

People have opinions about everything. Jiu jitsu is no exception.

At least the people on BJJ Twitter are far more reasonable and nicer than MMA Twitter. Go see for yourself. You would think people with no fighting experience wouldn’t get so upset about the intricacies of a pay per view bought. I try and stay away from MMA twitter. But I do like interacting with folks from BJJ twitter. At least that group of people share photos of themselves at the gym rolling and sparring, proof that they aren’t arm-chair martial artists.

I recently asked Twitter if BJJ white belts should give advice to other white belts. I got a bunch of replies and they span from Yes to No. And people kept it cordial.

So let’s dive in and see what these jiu jitsu’ers had to say about the question…Should white belts give advice in technique if asked by another white belt?

“You probably want to be careful with that. Maybe end your sentence with “but check with Coach”. 98% of the time that I overhear a white belt advising another student, I cringe. But then again, it’s often the worst students who are the quickest to give advice.”

“This is like the blind leading the blind”

“If it’s the modern day white belt who spends hours a day studying Jiu-Jitsu instructionals from BJJ Fanatics… the answer is hell yes. You’d be shocked at the breath of knowledge of some white belts out there.”

“If they are offering something they understand clearly and the advice is sound… Why not? I believe as a teammate, if your partner is doing something wrong or missing a detail you do know, you should tell them. It’s about collaboration and not ego.”

“If its something basic sure but if its anything complex id say no more often than not they mess up a fundamental part of it”

“Proby depends on experience n technique. I had my first comp after only 3 months of training as a white belt. Naturally newer people would ask for advice when we were paired in training. If it’s basics like grips or fundamentals then go for it I think!”

“Depends on the white belt. Big difference between 6 weeks in and a couple of yrs in. I’d like to think when I was a 4 stripe white belt 3 yrs in I had something to offer in supporting newbies. That said I’d help them with the more fundemental/basic stuff not advanced techniques.”

“As a white belt I do a lot of tip giving. And then we talk to the coach to approve it. We may not have much knowledge. But we also have eyes.”

“Only if said white belt is absolutely sure they understand the technique fully.”

“Well we had few whitebelts who had brown- or blackbelts in judo also. Sure as hell asked them tips for stand up grappling”

“Sure why not. If that person has mastery of the technique. I think people focus too much on what a belt is as opposed to what makes sense from the move. Don’t focus on a belt but focus on proficiency.”

“Nope.”

“I’m a white belt, and I’ll only give advice on what we’re drilling in the moment, and repeat exactly what my Coach has instructed. Even still, I don’t shy away from asking my Coach about specifics, more details. We’re hear to learn, so I soak up as much information as I can.”

“I give feedback on what I feel (is it tight, does it feel off balance) by saying and showing, but the only time I talk about technique is to say “I think the instructor said…” I also talk myself through every move out loud when I’m first learning. Guess I’m pretty annoying.”

I think it depends on the situation. If we drill armbars for example it is ok for one student to help another if they figured out something the other student didnt (like in any school class). But I don’t like when a white belt goes in and try to correct people during sparring.

“Nope white belts coaching white belts is like boiling pizza”

“From a submission and form perspective i wouldnt.
But if someone is spazzing out and you tell them to relax a little, it can only help them (and prevent you from getting hurt in the meantime)”

“Yes, if they know how to do it with their eyes closed against an unwilling opponent. Maybe, if they kind of know it and say ‘but check with [INSERT instructor / higher rank here] to make sure.’ No, if your spider-sense tells you they’re full of shit. Trust your spider-sense.”

Some great input there. Thanks to those who responded!

So what do I think?

Well as a three stripe white belt myself, I have given advice to other white belts when they ask for it. For example, a couple of weeks ago, I no gi sparred with a new member. After the roll he asked, “So how was that, did I do anything illegal, or do you have any feedback for me?”

I said he had natural athletic ability and he instinctively did some positive movements. I mentioned that he shouldn’t make a habit of sticking his arms out and pushing his opponent when he is mounted, as a higher belt would have put him in an arm bar. He said thanks and we fisted bumped.

White belts have eyes and ears and for the most part listen to their head instructors. I think it’s okay for white belts to give advice to white belts, but to make a habit of referring any detailed technical questions to a higher belt or instructor. Also, in general, white belts should not give advice to higher belts on bjj technique. But, if that white belt is a D1 wrestler, or a black belt in judo, I would definitely hear what they had to say about grappling stand-up.

What do you think, should white belts give advice? Let me know!

And see you out on the mats!
What Keeps You Showing Up to Jiu Jitsu?

November 15th, 2022
Hello fellow white belts!

I asked the question “What keeps you showing up to jiu jitsu practice?” on Twitter. The responses were great and also helped me ponder why I keep showing up each week to BJJ as well.

Here are the responses I’ve got so far to, “What keeps you showing up to jiu jitsu?”:

“The gift of obsession”

“Consistency and to learn”

“The thrill of the technique clicking is addictive. Whether it’s offensive or defensive, I really love executing something I’ve worked on for a bit.”

“Knowing that if I miss classes, my fellow white belt mates will get better than me lol”

“Love of the sport”

“I deeply enjoy fighting and testing myself against other people, and I like my training buds”

“The puzzle is mental. The Struggle is physical. The potential ROI hidden behind the synthesis of the two is the ultimate dopamine mine.”

“Nothing makes me feel so alive like rolling”

Some great reflection and input!

So, why do I keep showing up to jiu jitsu? I’ve wrote about it before on this blog (Why I Do Brazilian Jiu Jitsu) where I had some fun with ideas I read in a book. Basically, I came to the conclusion that I love the mental and physical aspects of BJJ, mixed in with some nostalgia for when I used to wrestle back-in-the-day.

Now that I’m a white belt with three stripes, dedicated over a year of training 2-6 times a week, and got my wife and her brother to join the BJJ academy as well, I’d say it’s safe to assume I’ll be doing this at least another year as long as I’m healthy. There is just too many positive aspects to BJJ to not want to go each week.

Maybe one day I’ll lose the luster of wanting to roll or life gets so busy that I cannot train as much as I want. But until then, I’ll keep going because I want to. Because it’s one of the best activities I’ve picked up in my life and I wish I did it sooner. Oh well, better late then never as they say.

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Losing a Match in a Jiu Jitsu Competition

October 14th, 2022
I’m 0-2 in jiu jitsu competition.

Remember when I said not to get discouraged in jujitsu? I should’ve taken my own advice.

“Our Jiu-jitsu game is so personal to us that we take losing personal. We need to approach it more from a scientific approach. You don’t suck, you just haven’t figured out the answer yet. The failures are going to bring you to enough knowing that you can then formulate the answer.”
Jiu Jitsu journal coaching (username)

I was pretty bummed out after my competition loss a couple weeks ago. Haven’t been to the mats since. But hey as long as I show up this week it’s all good. Another chapter in my jiu jitsu story.

“Don’t get hung up on electrical tape [belt stripes] used for student retention. Be content in the feeling of improvement”
-raging cheddar(username)

I’ve benefited a lot from jiu jitsu since starting it just over a year ago. Some weeks I would train almost everyday. I watch grappling matches online, I will tell people they should go to a free trial class, and I often write about my experiences with bjj on this blog and social media. I guess you could say my identity was wrapped around being a person who does jiu jitsu. I have to remind myself that jiu jitsu is a part of me but doesn’t encompass everything about me. So when I lose in a bjj match that doesn’t mean I’m a bad person or that my current bjj skills cannot improve. Most people who compete in jiu jitsu are supposed to lose, so they can get better.

“First at jits, got my ass kicked – the guys surrounded me after class and said “you coming back right?” I said, “yeah, why wouldn’t I” – they said “most people don’t, they can’t handle getting dominated” – you are the few, just remember that #Respect”
-CRYPTOFIT (username)

Losing in a jiu jitsu match and getting your ass kicked in front of a bunch of strangers sucks. I have to remember that no one cares and to make sure to sign up for another competition. Feeling bummed after you lost another BJJ match is normal. Just make sure you show up to class again and not let that loss define who you are. I’ll be back this week.

photo taken from this rulebook.pdf

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